[Tim]…offered a radically different way. He pointed people to Jesus, and through Jesus\u2019 example to a life of self-sacrificial service. That may seem unrealistic; doesn\u2019t the world run on self-interest? But Tim and his wife, Kathy, wrote a wonderful book, \u201cThe Meaning of Marriage,\u201d which in effect argued that self-sacrificial love is actually the only practical way to get what you really hunger for.<\/p>\n
After some time in marriage, they counseled, you\u2019re going to realize that the wonderful person you married is actually kind of selfish. And as you realize this about him, he is realizing this about you.<\/p>\n
The only way forward is to recognize that your own selfishness is the only selfishness you can control; your self-centeredness is the problem here. Love is an action, not just an emotion, and the marriage will only thrive if both people in it make daily sacrificial commitments to each other, learning to serve and, harder still, be served. \u201cWhether we are husband or wife,\u201d the Kellers wrote, \u201cwe are not to live for ourselves but for the other. And that is the hardest yet single most important function of being a husband or a wife in marriage.\u201d<\/p>\n
Tim\u2019s happy and generous manner was based on the conviction that we are born wired to seek delight, and we can find it. \u201cAnybody who has tasted the reality of God knows anything is worth losing for this,\u201d Tim preached, \u201cand nothing is worth keeping if I\u2019m going to lose this.\u201d<\/p>\n
Read it all<\/a>.<\/p>\n We all tried to act cool around Tim Keller, but we knew we had a giant in our midst. https:\/\/t.co\/J7Ft0Iqvrr<\/a><\/p>\n — David Brooks (@nytdavidbrooks) May 23, 2023<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n \n