{"id":20317,"date":"2010-06-12T23:00:55","date_gmt":"2010-06-12T23:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/127.0.0.1\/site\/2017\/2\/1985\/ny_times_letters_when_couples_divorce_late_in_life\/"},"modified":"2010-06-12T23:00:55","modified_gmt":"2010-06-12T23:00:55","slug":"ny_times_letters_when_couples_divorce_late_in_life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/?p=20317","title":{"rendered":"NY Times Letters: When Couples Divorce Late in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i>(<a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/06\/04\/opinion\/04bair.html\" title=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/06\/04\/opinion\/04bair.html\">The original article to which they are responding is here<\/a>).<\/i><\/p>\n<p>Here is one:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Without commenting on the separation of Al and Tipper Gore, I think there are at least four reasons to be appalled at the attitude and assumptions reflected by Deirdre Bair in her article.<\/p>\n<p>First, there is no consideration of the religious or at least personal commitment undertaken by couples. The unilateral abrogation of that commitment may result in few regrets by those who do so, according to Ms. Bair, but presumably that is not the view of their abandoned partners.<\/p>\n<p>Second, there is no mention of the effect on the children, albeit adult. One wonders if the children are in fact happy to see their parents pursuing their \u201cthird age.\u201d\u009d<\/p>\n<p>And oddly for a woman, Ms. Bair breezily assumes that women involved in such situations will do just fine financially. The general understanding is that women most usually suffer financially from divorce.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, there is the clear implication that those who remain married for life are benighted, craven losers without the guts to pursue their zen, rather than those whose love and devotion deserve our respect.<\/p>\n<p>John W. Curtis<br \/>\nGreenwich, Conn.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2010\/06\/12\/opinion\/l12divorce.html?hpw\">Read them all<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>(The original article to which they are responding is here). Here is one: Without commenting on the separation of Al and Tipper Gore, I think there are at least four reasons to be appalled at the attitude and assumptions reflected<span class=\"ellipsis\">&hellip;<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"read-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/?p=20317\">Read more &#8250;<\/a><\/div>\n<p><!-- end of .read-more --><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":794,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[39,103,168,98,177,34],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-20317","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-culture-watch","category-aging-the-elderly","category-ethics-moral-theology","category-marriage-family","category-pastoral-theology","category-theology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20317","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/794"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=20317"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/20317\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=20317"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=20317"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kendallharmon.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=20317"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}