Recently, I played the role of father of the bride for the first time in my life. It was a life-changing event for me; I barely survived. I suspect it was an important day for my daughter too; she was quite animated and very interested in every detail. Months of planning and purchasing led steadily to the special day. Flower choices were debated, color schemes considered and rejected, songs chosen, an organist identified, a soloist, a photographer, a videographer, a caterer, a baker, greeters, readers, feeders, eaters\u201d\u201dEisenhower spent less time planning his visit to Normandy. It was the usual, once-in-a-lifetime kind of event in the chapel of the small liberal-arts college where I teach and the betrothed couple met, graduated and learned about lifelong commitment\u201d\u201dlike the legal obligations inherent in student loans.<\/p>\n
Of course, there was the Friday-night rehearsal. My part was easy enough: Walk slowly down the aisle with a beautiful woman on my arm. After two walk-throughs, I was confident I could handle it. Although I had major parts, both onstage in a tuxedo and as the signer of numerous bank drafts, I had only one line, \u201cHer mother and I,\u201d\u009d in reply to the query, \u201cWho gives this woman?\u201d\u009d I delivered my line at the rehearsal in a strong, confident voice, accompanied by the thought, \u201cI can do this tomorrow.\u201d\u009d<\/p>\n
But at 3 a.m., I awoke with a panic attack. I could not do this.<\/p>\n