It was the hardest thing I\u2019d ever had to say to my husband, Marc. Three years ago, I sat down and told him: \u201cThe idea of having sex just with you for the next 40 years \u2013 I can\u2019t do it any more.\u201d But I had come to realise that my life was built around something I didn\u2019t believe in: monogamy.<\/p>\n
We had been together for 12 years and had two children, now nine and seven. I love being a mother and I set the bar high from the start \u2013 cloth nappies and cooking from scratch. But I needed something more in my emotional and sexual life.<\/p>\n
Marc\u2019s reaction was remarkable; he agreed to support me and open our marriage to other partners, although it wasn\u2019t really what he wanted. We started counselling to try to identify the best of what we had, to save it and protect it. Sex is a big part of a relationship, but it is only a part. We didn\u2019t want it to scupper us.<\/p>\n
If that sounds difficult, it was. I don\u2019t think we could have done it if we hadn\u2019t spent most of our marriage reading, talking and exploring together.<\/p>\n
I quickly embraced the dating scene and discovered another side of my sexual self. <\/p>\n