[Kate] Bowler tells how while she was still in hospital a neighbour came the door and told her husband \u2018Everything happens for a reason\u2019. \u2018I\u2019d love to hear it,\u2019 the husband replied. \u2018Pardon?\u2019 said the woman. \u2018The reason my wife is dying,\u2019 was the response. The neighbour said nothing but handed over a casserole.<\/p>\n
Bowler lists three life lessons that people try to teach her. The first is that death is just the gateway to heaven. The second is that suffering is \u2018an education in mind, body and spirit\u2019. And the third is that attitude determines destiny; just have faith and you will survive. Even atheists find a lesson in suffering. It can show us that we live in an uncaring world and should give up any search for meaning.<\/p>\n
Bowler finds no explanation for her suffering but this does not destroy her faith in God. She tells of a \u2018free-floating feeling\u2019 that stayed with her for months and conveyed God\u2019s presence to her.<\/p>\n
\u201cAt a time when I should have felt abandoned by God, I was not reduced to ashes. I felt like I was floating, floating on the love and prayers of all those who hummed around me like worker bees, bringing notes and flowers and warm socks and quilts embroidered with words of encouragement. They came like priests and mirrored back to me the face of Jesus.\u201d<\/p>\n