The problem, I suspect, is something of a misstep in our formula of what it means to live for Christ. We think we\u2019re his PR agents: If I look good, then Jesus looks good.<\/p>\n
So we hate the thought of not looking good. It\u2019s Christian failure.<\/p>\n
If this mindset permeates a whole church family, however, our life together becomes a matter of performance. We put on our best Christian mask, take a deep breath, and head to church. If Christian parents adopt this mindset, parenting becomes about trying to perform well in front of the kids, making sure they only see the highest standard of Christian behavior from us.<\/p>\n
This may be a common way of thinking, but it\u2019s disastrous. It leads to hypocrisy. The fact is, we\u2019re not good, and we can only keep up the fa\u00e7ade for a little while before the cracks begin to show. Our children see it right away. They know what we\u2019re really like and can immediately tell when we try to put a Christian sheen over it. And when we really make a mess of things, the last place we want to go is church. We\u2019re supposed to look Christian there, so when we know we can\u2019t remotely pretend things are together, it\u2019s easier simply not to go. Best to keep the mess away from the sanctuary.<\/p>\n
All this is a sign that while we may be professing grace, we\u2019re not actually inhabiting a culture of grace. We\u2019re not Jesus\u2019s PR agents, and he is not our client. We are broken men and women, and he is our Savior. It\u2019s not the case that I need to look good so Jesus can look good; I need to be honest about my colossal spiritual need so he can look all-sufficient. I don\u2019t increase so he can increase; I decrease so he can increase (John 3:30). That means being honest about my flaws, not embarrassed about them.<\/p>\n