Their private lives are as loosely attached as their economic lives. Many of the men expressed the desire to be good fathers to their children \u2014 to be more emotionally expressive around their kids than their own fathers had been with them. But they expressed no similar commitment to the women who had given birth to those children. Some found out they were fathers only years after their children were born.<\/p>\n
\u201cNearly all the men we spoke to viewed the father-child tie as central while the partner relationship was more peripheral,\u201d Edin and her colleagues write. Naturally, if the men are unwilling to commit to being in a full family unit, the role they actually end up playing in their children\u2019s lives is much more minimal than the role they really want.<\/p>\n
The men are also loosely attached to churches. Most say they are spiritual or religious. But their conception of faith is so individualized that there is nobody else they could practice it with. They pray but tend to have contempt for organized religion and do not want to tie themselves down to any specific community.<\/p>\n
\u201cI treat church just like I treat my girlfriends,\u201d one man said. \u201cI\u2019ll stick around for a while and then I\u2019ll go on to the next one.\u201d<\/p>\n
Read it all<\/a>.<\/p>\n At the very moment economic forces detach many working-class men from stable careers, the autonomy ethos teaches that it\u2019s right to be semidetached, with your options perpetually open. \u2014 David Brooks (@nytdavidbrooks) May 14, 2019<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n
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