Of course, traditionally in southern Africa the groom pays the bride’s father a bride price, lobola, which used to be cows and still is often calculated in cow currency ie the equivalent of X cows. A friend of mine many years ago, a deaconess (remember them? women of strength, courage, faith, wisdom) told me that her husband, wanting to ‘spring’ her from the training house so that they could marry, had to pay a fine. ‘He had to pay lobola for me’ she said, matter-of-factly.
Of course, traditionally in southern Africa the groom pays the bride’s father a bride price, lobola, which used to be cows and still is often calculated in cow currency ie the equivalent of X cows. A friend of mine many years ago, a deaconess (remember them? women of strength, courage, faith, wisdom) told me that her husband, wanting to ‘spring’ her from the training house so that they could marry, had to pay a fine. ‘He had to pay lobola for me’ she said, matter-of-factly.
I consider my wife to be worth many cows.
I do not know her views about me nor do I wish to ask.