Adding a Ritual to a Wedding: Showing Support for Same Sex Marriage

Adrienne Baker walked down the aisle on her wedding day in August wearing high heels, a strapless ruffled dress and a slender white wristband. Her groom, Austin Vitt, augmented his dark suit with the same accessory. So did many of their 140 guests.

Moments later, when the ceremony began, the divinity student who was officiating offered the first reading. It was a selection that the soon-to-be Mr. and Ms. Vitt considered the secular equivalent of Scripture, excerpts from a ruling by the Massachusetts Supreme Court in the case of Goodridge v. Department of Public Health.

“Without the right to choose to marry,” the officiant, Julie Maxwell, intoned, “one is excluded from the full range of human experience.” In other words, as the court concluded in the 2003 decision, same-sex marriage is a legal and civil right. As for the delicate wrist ribbons, they were Ms. Vitt’s adaptation of the white-knot logo for the marriage-equality movement.

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One comment on “Adding a Ritual to a Wedding: Showing Support for Same Sex Marriage

  1. Kendall Harmon says:

    From Doug Leblanc:

    This troubling practice:

    –abuses the pulpit by seeing it as a tool of ideological power
    –denigrates Scripture by treating the ruling of a judge as equally worthy of attention
    –ostracizes wedding guests who affirm the historic understanding of marriage, if any such guests have been invited
    –sets a contemporary legal opinion in conflict with any Gospel reading in which Jesus discusses marriage, or substitutes the legal opinion for the wisdom of Jesus
    –abuses the wedding liturgy, as if the liturgy should accommodate homilies about the couple’s opinions on any number of culture-war hot buttons
    –places the celebrant, the wedding party, and their hobby horses at the center of attention.

    Couples who wish to give their weddings such a focus can do so in a less intrusive manner by asking that, in lieu of expensive house-warming gifts, their guests should send donations to Freedom to Marry. That too places ideology before hospitality, and it would be a more costly sacrifice than rewriting the liturgy, but at least guests would not be as ambushed.

    –Douglas LeBlanc