Blurry Sexual and Familial Lines(II)–Cynthia Nixon "chooses" Same Sex relationship, enraging some

[Cynthia] Nixon is a mother herself; her two oldest children are Samantha, 15, and Charlie, 9. Their father is Daniel Mozes, a classmate of Nixon’s at Hunter College High School, where he now teaches English. The couple never married and split in 2003….A year after splitting with Mozes, she began a relationship with Christine Marinoni….

[She is frustrated by]…the skepticism she says her relationship has sparked among some gay activists who find her midlife switch in sexual orientation disingenuous.

“I totally reject that,” she said heatedly. “I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ”˜I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.” Her face was red and her arms were waving. “As you can tell,” she said, “I am very annoyed about this issue. Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.”

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9 comments on “Blurry Sexual and Familial Lines(II)–Cynthia Nixon "chooses" Same Sex relationship, enraging some

  1. Uh Clint says:

    It’s truly amusing to watch the more radical echelons of the LGBT movement go berserk when someone (especially a high profile someone like Cynthia Nixon) comes out with a statement/action which is totally at odds with “accepted’ LGBT “dogma”.

    This kind of bullying makes clear what the true agenda is – absolute, unconditional affirmation of LGBT-ism, with no wandering from the established “truths”. It also goes to show that while folks scream that what goes on in their bedrooms is no one’s business, they then proceed to spend a great deal of their time and energy making everyone aware of *exactly* what goes on in those bedrooms.

    Back when the notion of simple toleration being the beginning of a slippery slope, those hinting that there was actually more to the agenda were written off as extremists. Now, they have proven to be prophetic…..

  2. Undergroundpewster says:

    Faced with people like Nixon, the LGBT community can
    1) Claim that this is not authentic homosexuality.
    2) Accept those who choose this as a lifestyle but behind the scenes deny their authenticity.
    3) Claim that Nixon is mistaken and really did not have a choice.
    4) Try to “straighten” her out.

  3. Teatime2 says:

    Well, it was only a matter of time before their “this is biological and inborn” arguments bit them in their collective butt. There are plenty of “situational homosexuality” examples that they didn’t want to acknowledge (i.e. prison and same-sex schools) but now more mainstream choice examples are coming to the forefront. Good for Cynthia Nixon’s honesty about this matter and her refusal to let them browbeat her into declaring the party line.

    In a tiny minority of cases, homosexuality and gender issues are biological. More often, though, it involves a decision and choice of behavior/lifestyle. There are some people who have a true mental health problem called kleptomania and there are other people who choose to steal, with some of those making it a lifestyle. Good thing we don’t have Klepto Pride day celebrations in our downtowns, lol.

  4. Milton says:

    #3 Yet.

  5. midwestnorwegian says:

    “The Big Narcissism” strikes again.

  6. Ralph says:

    The Bishop of New Hampshire decided to recite the wedding vows with a female, and chose to father 2 children with her – presumably in the time-honored manner. Then, he chose something else.

    He now has 2 grandchildren.

    Like Cynthia Nixon, he has made lots of decisions, lots of choices.

  7. Br. Michael says:

    Of course anti-discrimination laws are based on the theory of immutable characteristics such as race, nationality, ethnic origin. And now sexual orientation, but if sexual orientation does not really exist or is fluid and changeable then this rationale for anti-discrimination disappears.

    If we add behaviors to anti-discrimination laws then we are well on the way to tyranny.

  8. Bookworm(God keep Snarkster) says:

    The other day I happened to catch a little of the movie “The Kids are All Right”(if you haven’t already, don’t bother). Considering its critical reviews, it’s obvious that people simply see what they want to see. The movie is full of double standards and inconsistent behaviors.

    Personally I found it amusing that Julianne Moore’s character, in a long-term lesbian relationship, repeatedly claimed that she was gay, despite a hot-and-heavy straight affair with the sperm donor of her children. Not to say that any lesbian couldn’t just “lay there”, because she surely could, but this woman was an active, willing, and satisfied participant in multiple acts. I wonder why any lesbian would want to have consensual sex with a man. If the character wanted to cheat, she could have found a way to cheat on her partner with another woman, if she was “gay”. And frankly, her cheating was portrayed as “ok” because she was needy and did it as part of a family, whilst the sperm donor, a single guy, was portrayed as a pig and an interloper because he aided in her cheating. And, she was not seduced by any means; it was she who first kissed him.

    I wonder how the screenwriter, whom I believe is a gay woman, would address all this? Somebody “bi” or swinging but insisting that she’s “gay”, and gay cheating is ok and forgivable but some form of straight “interloping” is not?!!

    Maybe when they figure out all their confusion and double standards they’ll let me know; meanwhile, the one man-one woman-for-life Scriptures got a lot of it right.

  9. Katherine says:

    Several high-profile Episcopal “gay/lesbian” leaders previously had marriages to members of the opposite sex and produced children with them. Was one “false,” and the other “true”? Which one? Change is not something new.