My daughter is 34, single, attractive, educated. She has had two long-term relationships that broke up. Wants to get married, but the guys, from what I can see, all think they’re on this life-long episode of Seinfeld. Plus they get all the sex they want, thanks to the new attitudes the women have. My daughter has started talking about resigning herself to being single. Too bad.
Well, I wasn’t an “invited reader” so I couldn’t read the article. Chastity is something we are called to as singles. I don’t see the big deal with it. We live in God’s grace through the Sacraments, so it’s completely possible to live this life. I know. I’ve been doing it and I’m almost 40. I still attract young guys (may be because I act younger), but the odds of me actually meeting someone are slim. Then when I do, he usually doesn’t take his Catholic faith seriously, or if he (thinks he) does, he’s challenged by being chaste and respecting boundaries before marriage. Also, the men that are left over, so to speak (still single) usually have issues where they just can’t afford a wife and kids, or have divorce baggage, and this sort of thing. There may very well be some eligible Catholic bachelors of a decent sort and age out there, but then the hurdle is how do you meet them? We don’t normally attend bars, or social clubs, and at church-related gatherings everything you do is on the spotlight. You can’t lift a pinky without everyone knowing. Catholic websites are a waste of time; I’m constantly having to turn guys down who think that when I say what I’m looking for I don’t really mean it. I’m tempted to let myself go and not try any longer and accept I will never get married.
Thanks – I have a wonderful sister who is happily single and Catholic – I will pass this on to her.
My daughter is 34, single, attractive, educated. She has had two long-term relationships that broke up. Wants to get married, but the guys, from what I can see, all think they’re on this life-long episode of Seinfeld. Plus they get all the sex they want, thanks to the new attitudes the women have. My daughter has started talking about resigning herself to being single. Too bad.
Kendall, thanks for posting this. Notice that Seraphic Single mentions chastity – not just singlehood. Good for her!
Well, I wasn’t an “invited reader” so I couldn’t read the article. Chastity is something we are called to as singles. I don’t see the big deal with it. We live in God’s grace through the Sacraments, so it’s completely possible to live this life. I know. I’ve been doing it and I’m almost 40. I still attract young guys (may be because I act younger), but the odds of me actually meeting someone are slim. Then when I do, he usually doesn’t take his Catholic faith seriously, or if he (thinks he) does, he’s challenged by being chaste and respecting boundaries before marriage. Also, the men that are left over, so to speak (still single) usually have issues where they just can’t afford a wife and kids, or have divorce baggage, and this sort of thing. There may very well be some eligible Catholic bachelors of a decent sort and age out there, but then the hurdle is how do you meet them? We don’t normally attend bars, or social clubs, and at church-related gatherings everything you do is on the spotlight. You can’t lift a pinky without everyone knowing. Catholic websites are a waste of time; I’m constantly having to turn guys down who think that when I say what I’m looking for I don’t really mean it. I’m tempted to let myself go and not try any longer and accept I will never get married.