You’ve gone through a lot with breast cancer and having a spotlight on your family. What are the appropriate emotional responses to suffering? For instance, can one be angry?
I dealt with that when I lost my brother in October 2004, and four days after I buried my brother, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I was furious. I had a lot of fear and disappointment, and coming from a strong faith background, I couldn’t believe these things could happen to me, to my family. That’s what the “chronic life” is. You start to turn inward, and these patterns, despair, and depression cause us to turn inward and focus on ourselves. The message in the book and what we’re hoping is to help people turn outward. The focus then is on others.
You wrote about how one of your friends told you, “Sure you have cancer inside your body, but you also have Christ.” You wrote, “I will never forget those words. They were simple, to the point and incredibly true.” How did your faith shape your response to breast cancer?
I think at that moment I realized, this isn’t about me. God obviously didn’t give me cancer, but he certainly prepared me for it. I knew there was a bigger plan.