Andrew Haines–Polyamory in the 21st Century

Polyamory, according to author Deborah Anapol, refers to a set of “lovestyles” wherein individuals are free to engage romantically with any person””or group of people””they wish. In her new book, Polyamory in the 21st Century, Anapol aims to distinguish just what these lovestyles look like, vis-à-vis a popular contemporary “bias [toward] mononormativity.” Subsequently, she suggests the benefits that “sexual fluidity” holds for the future.

Anapol, who is a full-time relationship coach, writes as a “participant observer in the polyamory community,” and her commentary on the intricacies of multi-partner relating spares no details. Drawing from her professional practice, she brings readers right into the high-occupancy bedrooms””or “sex rooms” as they are sometimes called””of today’s most vigorous polyamorites.

Anapol’s account is designed as an all-around apologia of the consensual free love movement and attempts to radically and critically redefine the very meaning of sex. But although it’s intended to be both revolutionary as well as educational, Polyamory in the 21st Century leaves the discerning reader more puzzled than enlightened. The author’s ultimate report, laden as it is with obvious contradictions and vagaries, betrays a quixotic and confused fascination with an incoherent form of living….

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7 comments on “Andrew Haines–Polyamory in the 21st Century

  1. Bart Hall (Kansas, USA) says:

    I must have missed something. 1968, where Anapol quite obviously remains enmeshed, … was that the 21st century? Darn. I thought I was good with numbers.

  2. Br. Michael says:

    Should fit in quite well with the GLBT etc. life style.

  3. Already left says:

    Coming to a TEC church near you.

  4. upnorfjoel says:

    “….chapter, called “The Ethics of Polyamory,”….”
    Must be a short chapter. Probably just a few words about “inclusion”.

  5. A Senior Priest says:

    This is such an amusing article. For the most part polyamorous sex is a concern of youngish people who are still exploring a new thing and want a lot of it, sort of like wine snobbery or race car driving I suppose. And, of course, it’s been tried in modern times at least in the 1920s and 60s by the young, once again. After a while people get bored with polyamory and wander off, trying monogamy and then infidelity in an effort to resolve what in essence cannot be resolved… the human condition.

  6. R. Eric Sawyer says:

    #5 -Very nicely said.
    The idea that something is “a new thing” simply because it is a new thing for me seems to lead to all types of short-sighted errors.

  7. Larry Morse says:

    There is nothing new or original here. It starts with an antique proposition – I want lots and lots of sex with explicit permission to go after it – and joins it to a familiar hunger to use “paradigm” a lot. This use is to give intellectual cachet to hormonal self indulgence. Ho hum. College students take a more honest approach: If you an get it, take it. The more the merrier.
    Lovely. This tells us what we already know, that homosexual practices will soon make group sex legal and acceptable. Larry