The bottom line for many pastors, said Bales, is that they are afraid to level with their people ”” person to person.
“Let’s face it. Your people can run you crazy. But that’s really not where ministers get into deep trouble,” he said. “Through the years, I have been especially interested in all the ways that ministers struggle with their own humanity. You see, they expect so much out of themselves, which can be hard since their people keep trying to hold them to standards higher than the saints and the angels.”
Try to imagine, he said, a pastor speaking these words to the faithful: “Dear friends, I am undone. My marriage is in shambles and things aren’t going great with my kids, either. My emotions are wracked. I’m stressed out. … You see, I’m prepared to minister to you, but who is going to minister to me?”